Step daughter

My step father has aphisia from a stroke his right side is also paralyzed. My mom his wife is 70 years old and in her age cant be that much of help.


I have no siblings in fact we have no family at all. Its always been us 3. I've dropped everything in my life.

I've even sent my kids to live with their father, my ex husband, so I can give 100% to my parents. I do not get paid for anything in fact I've drained my savings paying for medicine gas food etc. My mother puts such a big guilt trip on me if I'm 5 minutes late for anything.

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you're in the same soup as us.
by: Anonymous

You're very dedicated to your dad, but you need to learn to, for lack of a better way to say it, defend yourself from your step mom. It sounds like she's a narcissist. My mom is. I didn't know it for years and always beat myself up - "what am I doing wrong?".

I would suggest you read Will I Ever Be Good Enough" and other writings by Dr. Karyl McBride.

That will give you some ideas about narcissists, how they treat others, how they deny accountability, and how they will tear you down for everything and anything. You need to take care of yourself before she literally destroys you. Also find a way to have others come in and help.

Get a part-time job to get you out of the house and try to get some small income to cover the help. Don't let your guilt bankrupt you and any future you have. Your children need to be important to you as well - they may feel abandoned by you. Try to fix that.

I'm not trying to be harsh or come across as lecturing - it's just that I've been there, done that, and the t-shirt definitely isn't worth it. Your dad, while he can't say it, appreciates you, but your step mom definitely doesn't. My mom doesn't appreciate me either, but I'm far too invested and dumb to walk away.

In the past when I tried to tell my mom about things I gave up in my life in the past for her (I'm almost 60 now) her response was "that's not my fault" rather than "I appreciate you. thank you" which is what I thought I'd hear. My siblings were smart enough to leave 30 years ago. Not me....

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