So Tired

A year ago my husband became partially disabled. Also, at that time we became guardian to our 14 year old grandson. Also, we moved my mother to an assisted living home very close to us. We moved her away from her routes as my brother did very little to help her.


She is one of the most negative people you ever met. I'm not a kid anymore and all of this seems so much to me right now. I don't know how to say no.

Nothing makes her happy. I feel resentment and anger. I'm also sad so often.
I can't afford professional help. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?

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You Can't Always Fix It!
by: Anonymous

Negativity is the hardest thing to deal with and it wears you out so much more than any physical activity. I feel for you..... We all take on roles because we feel we should, or because there is a sense of obligation, but it's not selfish to expect some recognition for what you are doing, honestly!

It sounds like you have taken on a task that will never give you any satisfaction and she is only serving to make you feel bad about yourself, please stop beating yourself up about this situation. Without question, she is entitled to be who she is, but equally, you are entitled to say you cannot do this anymore.

I'm not sure what assisted living' means but, if she's safe and her physical needs are catered for then you should withdraw, if there are things you need to do for her, then do them and then leave. If a sense of guilt is all that is keeping you here, give it up, concentrate on those who need and want your support, honestly, it's OK!

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