So Many Caregivers, So Little Help For Them
I worked 30 straight days last month in order to get away from the house for 5 days. I finished the last job and had mom set-up with everything she needed, got in the car and drove 300 miles to spend time with a friend in the mountains.
The most glorious thing in the whole vacation was waking up and having NOTHING to do! Nothing! No list, no appointments, phone calls, shopping, errands, banking, post office, etc. It was the most amazing feeling. We get so used to the hectic pace, that we don't even realize it.
As soon as I got home, I hit the ground running. I was already behind. After driving home, I unpacked, did laundry, went grocery shopping, went to the drugstore, got the dog out, and started my job!
That was two days ago, and I haven't stopped. I'm right back on that treadmill. That damn list is completely filled to the bottom line.
The saddest thing is, I came back to my Boomers website, and I see so many more new entries pleading for help and no one has answered them.
They literally ask for help at the end of their entry. And all the entries are so uniquely different. There is no pat answer for any of them. I want to answer them, but their situation is so different from mine, I really can't stand in their shoes.
Just saying, We are out here and we hear you! is not enough for them. They are truly trapped and suffering.
I'm trapped in my own situation and I just go from day-to-day. I find that my mom's decline makes each day a little different and I have to come up with new tactics.
It's so tiring and takes so much energy. Now we have moved into communication difficulties. I will say something and she doesn't understand what I said. I have to say it three times, each in a different way, and by the time I do all that I don't even care about the conversation anymore. It's exasperating. And then she gets angry because I'm frustrated and on it goes.
I wish I had some great advice for all of us. Myself, I pray to God for guidance and patience, I make sure I put my oxygen mask on first, and I take one day at a time.