I have given up my life for the past 4 years to deal with my mother and her dementia, finding nursing homes, staying at the nursing home so she'd eat, on and on. I had a small store that was barely making it and my 86 year old father was now living with me. Neither one of them had long term care insurance, so I was footing a lot of the bills, and all of the responsibility.
I have two brothers, one works for the state of CA and makes over $100K year, and my other brother is a police officer and makes about the same, if not more. No help was ever offered in any way. Not money, not searching for nursing homes we could afford, not visiting, not even bothering to come to say good bye when they both had plenty of notice she was dying.
BUT-the day after the cremation and all of that was taken care of financially, they wanted to know where their share of the inheritance was.
Needless to say-there was none-it had used up all of my savings to take care of my mom, and now I have lost my business, I am in foreclosure on my home, and I have to figure out a way to find a home I can afford that is safe for my 86 year old father who does nothing but treat me like crap-I know it's the dementia, but I am about at that breaking point. I can't even get him to pack the junk in his room.
Why can't I have a life-I deserve one-I have worked hard all my life and in a few years lost everything I had worked so hard for because my parents didn't have insurance. I'm 62 and I think I should get a do-over. My life has not been a good one.
And I had terrible siblings.