Sister Will Not Help
I just found this website and reading through all the comments. I can't believe how many people are out there with the same issues as mine, a sibling that won't help out.
I am a 58 year old female. Divorced, no children. Work full time. My father passed away 9 years ago. I lived 5 hours away from my parents for 20 years. After my divorce I moved back to my home town. I have two sisters.
One of my sisters was taking care of my mom after my dad passed away. But two years ago her husband was transferred for his job out of town. I have no issues with this sister.
She was incredible with my mother. It's my other sister who is unbelievable. I have been back for 2 years now and she hasn't helped out at all. The first year I lived about 30 minute drive from my mother, it was close to my job.
And my sister lived five minutes away from mom.I went every weekend to take her shopping, hairdresser, appointments etc. I called her during the week to make sure she was okay.
My sister did absolutely nothing. She never called her or dropped by to see how she was doing. Doesn't call her on her birthday or mothers day. So after a year my mom and I decided to buy a house together close to where I work.
It is a duplex so we each have our own living units. My mom is 83 so I am taking care of her by myself. I have no help. I confronted my sister and asked her why she doesn't help at all or call mom.
All she said is sorry that's all I got. Whatever that means. I guess she just doesn't have anything for our mother. All her kids are grownup and moved out. She works full time and has a boyfriend with a vehicle. And our mother was a very good mother when we were growing up.
Reading through all the other comments I just don't understand how some siblings can be like this. Especially when they had loving parents. I'm just trying to understand but I just don't get it at all.