Sister? Brothers? I Haven't Any Anymore!!!!

by Pam
(Clinton Township, MI)

Basically, my mom is the sole survivor of her family. My dad, and all her brothers, sisters, cousins, etc have passed.


All she has left are my 2 brothers and my sister who have basically come up with every excuse in the book as to why they can not help her out.

They are retired, I am not.

I work full time, and somehow, I've been chosen to be full time caregiver while the rest of them vacation, shop, and enjoy their lives. I am no longer speaking to any one them.

Not only do they visit as little as possible, but not a ONE OF THEM EVER ask her if she needs help with something, or if I NEED HELP with something on her end.

This has been going on for years and I have HAD IT. I am not attending any more family functions and I do not want to look at any ONE of them.

Everything has been turned over into my name and my care when something happens to my mom and it will be EVERYTHING I've got to try and be fair to them.

I basically hate them all and it's NOT going to change, so don't comment about how "we need to talk this out", or "how we need to communicate".

They have made it CLEAR by their lack of visits, phone calls, and concern that they could care less.

Pathetic!, and I am not going to smile and pretend everything is okay when I see them because it is NOT. I have no further words.

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Siblings are selfish
by: Ellie

Pam, I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. You are not alone. You don't know how truly selfish people can be until you become a caregiver.

My boyfriend is currently taking care of his grandmother and has absolutely no help from his brother or sister-in-law.

They begged him to move in with her because she needed help. Gave him empty promises that they would help in anyway possible whenever they could.

He's realized they weren't worried about if she needed help. They were worried that if she couldn't live on her own she would have to sell her house and go to a nursing home and they wouldn't be able to inherit it.

They show up a few times a year to watch her so he can come visit my parents and check in on her once a day while he's gone. They do less than the bare minimum.

I can't and probably won't ever be able to grasp how siblings can justify in their head that they don't need to help.

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