Single Mom and Caregiver for Elderly Mom

by Just Me
(Bethlehem, PA)

My Mother has been living with me for the past 26 months. I am a widow with a teenage boy. The past month has been extremely challenging for me. My Mother tends to get verbally and mentally abusive with me. I get NO help from my 3 siblings. They promised they would help when we made the decision that she could move in with me. Two years later, NOTHING from the three of them.

Not even an offer to take her for the day. This past week I reached my limit after being constantly criticized and degraded from her so I decided to vent to my siblings. Without going into detail about each conversation, I'll just get to the point.
All I wanted was some emotional support.

Sibling #1, tells me he refuses to stay on the phone and listen to me complain about my mom.

Sibling #2, tells me to get professional help to deal with my stress.

Sibling #3, tells me that in the past 6 months she invited our mother over 3, yes you read that right, it's not a typo, 3 times and my mom declined, therefore, sibling #3, will NEVER invite her to her house again.

The details of each call is more horrifying.

Seriously? You can't make this stuff up!!! I'm at my wits end, not only were their promises a bunch of hot air but I can't even rely on them for emotional support.

In addition, I'm dealing with a Teenage boy alone...but he's not nearly as challenging as my mother. He loves my Mother to death despite the way she treats me, which he is exposed to on a daily basis. If I would ask her to leave, he would blame me forever and our relationship would be scarred for life. I need my son, he's the only stable thing I have in my life.

I'm broken right now and don't know where to turn. My son needs me to be stable. My mother and siblings will drive me to some insane asylum.

Help...