Siblings Punish Dad for Their Feud with Me
My sisters have decided I am a bad and unforgivable person. They are angry my father selected me to help him in his ageing years. I am more than willing and able to be the one. I would like to share the emotional psychological experience with them. But they want to help in their way or no way and call me controlling.
We are all three strong, willful, smart and educated women. But my sisters resent that he has allowed me into his life after a bad period of my life. I am imperfect but have recovered from my troubles.
I have all but groveled with both sisters to agree to disagree on past hurts but to try and cooperate and be involved in Dad's life. No go. Thus they do not help or contribute or pay appropriate attention to him. They are causing him deep heartache.
I also hate to see them miss out on his final years. We were a close family. I have the care and management itself handled.
I don't want or need their "help" which usually consisted of them running at odds with whatever I had arranged. Changing appointments. Changing household tasks etc. no cooperation but really just complicated and disrupted things.
I wish they could love and interact with him without using me and their distortions as an excuse to be estranged.
He is healthy and of full mental capacity. He is functionally blind and so needs certain kinds of help. Reading, transportation.
They just hate me and use that to punish him.