Sibling Who Doesn't Help
We only have my Dad left, he is 85 yrs old. He has dementia. I live 15 hours away, yet I am the one that flies down twice a month to see him. I have 4 children I am raising and own a business which requires over 50 hours a week.
I have incurred the financial cost of each visit as well. I get 25 calls a day ( average) from my Dad just asking about little stuff. I handle his household from 15 hours away in every possible way.
I am NOT an only child, although you might think I was. I actually have a living/ breathing sister who lives 4 hours from my Dad. She refuses to help in any way, but only because she is WAY too busy and visiting my Dad is not fun. Plus, she has 10 cats that she refuses to leave for any other reason than work.
I am exhausted from begging, pleading for her to contribute to his care. She does not care and has no problem sleeping at night. I love my Father, his calls, his needs are NOT a burden.
My anguish and despair is over how disrespectful she can be to him and how she does not mind that all this is on my shoulders. My Father was and is still an amazing good Father.
Her reasons are selfish and she does not want her life to change at all, which btw it hasn't. Please tell me I am not alone!
Although, I can't imagine there are other heartless adult children like this.