Sibling not releasing any information or money for me to care for mom.

by Liz
(Perkasie, PA.)

My mom who is 91 lives with me for the past 2 yrs. Before that I would travel to her home every weekend and stay there.


My older sister who was left in charge by father has mentally abused her in such a manner that even though she is mentally intact she allows her to do whatever she wants with her documents and finances.

For 10 years she lived alone with my mom and took over all she could. My mother who would never do this signed a will that was changed leaving her the only one in charge and only one on her home.

This aside I now have her with me and all I want to do is take care of her needs. I do not need her home or money.

My mom is afraid although she denies to ask for anything as far as documents I need to care for her. She recently cancelled a second insurance and now my mother is having many difficult problems that I cannot easily get help with.

I went to area of aging several years back and my mother said she would never say that my sister did anything. (The woman who spoke to my mom told me that if she does not say she is doing it, nothing they can do.)

All I want is to see to it that my mother who my sister left alone in an apt before I had her is taken care of ethically which she is not. I have no information on her Social Security because she leaves it in my sisters bank account. Everything is kept from me and my mom is afraid of retaliation so she allows me to be the mistreated on. HELP.

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Try a Lawyer?
by: Anonymous

There are many elder law lawyers who would offer a free consultation. That would be my first suggestion. Get an appointment with your local aging agency office.

Don't try everything alone. It only makes you sick. You might find you can't do anything about it and have to let it go, but whatever you do, be open and find helpers.

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