Sibling is Using Mom's Money

by Leela
(New York)

My mom is close to her retirement age, however has not saved one penny towards her retirement. She is a small business owner and divorced so she had to raise me and a sister. She still has house mortgages to pay. I have just started a career and am trying to save up money after paying student loans to afford my own housing. However recently, I learned that my mom was still financing my sister and supporting her spending habits via paying off her credit card.


It got me upset, because my mom is always complaining that she has no money and is burdened by bills. My mom will always ask me for money because I have finally started a decent career and am doing "okay."

However, I feel that my sister should be paying for her own spending habits. The complaint I always hear from my sister is that she doesn't make as much as I do, and that she has student loans to pay for. The things that my sister is charging to her credit card is hair products, gym memberships, and clothes.

I do not understand why my mom should be paying for those items. My sister is not paying for food, or any of those bills. So am I being unreasonable to tell my mom that she should stop paying for my sister's credit card? Because right now my sister is upset with me and I feel like my mom might cave to my sister's attitude and pressure and keep paying for her credit card.

But if that is the case, then I do not want to help my mom with money anymore since it's going to support my sister's expensive lifestyle.

Any advice?

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