She's a Narcissist!
Well, my mom has always been a narcissist, needy, dependent, ungrateful, addicted, hypocrite, ready for this- ultra religious person! Exactly. Practice what you preach. Nope, not my mom. If you dare try to communicate with her to better your relationship, she goes berserk!
She was always very dependent on my dad, but 4 years ago he died so she became completely needy and dependent on us children. There are 3 within an hour from her and one out of state.
She fell twice in the past 6 months breaking ribs, hips, and organs- now she continues to fall often and cannot take care of herself anymore.
What's worse is she has dementia. I have always gone to counseling over her none of us have patience for her rude behavior, but I cannot tolerate her lately. I also suffer from major depression.
So I told my sister who is power of attorney- that I quit. Mom just won't listen to me when its my day to care for her. I can't get her to get ready and be on time for doctor appointments, so what is the POINT!
Let's just get a live in and end this horrible never ending marathon! It's like there is no appreciation, or accomplishment except that we make her meals and she gets fed. She criticizes everyone. Yells at everyone She's usually unpleasant. And then wonders why none of her few friends left want to visit her!
So my question is, is it wrong that I quit and can tend to my children and husband better? I usually have to vent on them for hours every time I go there, drink for the next few days, take Xanax to go to sleep. Then the week goes on- but the 2 days leading up to my day to go up again- the anxiety starts!
I'm guessing it's not healthy for me. And that we need to get a live in so we can visit her without resentment!