She has So Much Energy and a Control Freak!

by Help Me Please

I think I have the opposite issues and i'm not sure what to call it. My mother asked me to move in with her last month when my father suddenly passed from a heart attack and I really had no choice.


She has never drove and was 100% dependent of my father for almost everything. He would bring her fresh groceries every single day with a prepared dinner and fresh fruit waiting for her.

The problem is that she has to CONTROL everything and has so much energy that she's driving me crazy! She sleeps about 3 hours a night and wakes up and makes so much noise on purpose to make sure I get up (4am).

All she does is wash the same 3 items of clothing in the washer all day long and splashes water everywhere and constantly complains that the house is dirty while it's so immaculate you could eat off of the floors.

If I purchase groceries the next day EVERYTHING is in the garbage and she demands fresh bought food or will refuse to eat. She will not let me touch the kitchen area and will not let me cook or even make her a sandwich.

I caught her cutting up sheets and makes her own rags that she uses ONLY once as paper towels? She yells and screams and complains about NEGATIVE things all day long and runs around the house like a chicken with it's head cut off!

I am so exhausted and she refuses to see a geriatrics doctor or take any medication at all! I am 49 she is 78 it's only been one month and we are on a strict budget because I had to quit my job or else she will run away I found her at the end of the road confused looking for me one day.

She has so much ENERGY but it's all negative and strange. What should I do and who do I turn to?

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this is harsh.......
by: Bittersweet

OK, I'll cut to the chase.....you need to put her in a home. It has only been a month and already you're exhausted. Get your local elders advocate in your home to do an evaluation.

They will tell you she needs to be in a facility.

Her actions are not that of a rational and logical person. You have to ask yourself if she could be a potential danger to herself or to YOU. Could she burn down the house, run the water all night, stab you while you sleep?

Seriously..it's not about control, it's about safety. Get her in full time care.

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