Selfish Brother and Sister in Law

My dad is frail and can't do much for himself, he broke his hip around 10 years ago. I don't resent helping my dad but I do resent my sister in law being so rude and impatient with him when he repeats himself, she is a very critical person and I wish my brother had never met her. She snaps at me if she feels I am doing something wrong. They go on vacation and I work full time and I would sometimes like to go away for a week or two but I can't and they don't care or understand.

I think the problem is her, she treats my brother like he is a nothing and wears the pants in their relationship. I don't even like to talk to them because I never know when I will be snapped at or when my dad will get criticized by them.

My dad doesn't deserve this kind of treatment. I am glad I don't see them often. When they get elderly just wait to see who helps them out, it certainly won't be me.

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Mums Care
by: Anonymous

Hi I have a elderly parent , siblings caring for her at home needs 24 hour care for the past few years.

I know very little about her care needs and finance situation, other took over and we all live away, so we take it in turn to go and look after her.

I am still working so can not do as mush as the others and I am a son and can not do the personal things needed such as toilet and other girly things. No one has p o e.

Family funny with me as I do not do as much as them, and been accused of not wanting to look after her.

I have said at one point we should all get together and discuss mums care but they did not want that so I feel left out on decisions, of care and needs. They took over that and finances which is kept secret from me?

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Your Dad is Lucky to Have You
by: Anonymous

Sorry to hear that your sister in law is such a bi**h and that your brother is a wimp. It is a good thing that you don't see them too often, but it's a shame that you and your dad have to tolerate her abuse. I wish you could get away for a rest. Are there respite services near you?

Easter Seals here in Delaware does provide such services even for a weekend. You wouldn't have to rely on your brother. Are there any other family members you could ask for even a day or maybe can you afford a home health aide or a companion to come into the home for an afternoon off? Sometimes elder care services or church affiliated groups have low cost or free services that you might be able to take advantage of.

Good luck.

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