Scared

by Cricket
(Mesquite, Texas)

I have moved in with my 90 year old mother who is in a wheelchair. She has been hateful, mean and controlling all our lives. I have one older brother and one sister.


My sister works and travels so it pretty much leaves me to tend to my mom. I was living in an apartment but moved in with her as I am on disability and it is hard to make ends meet.

My mother fell in 2013 in October the day after cataract surgery and broke her femur at the hip.

It's over a year later and she has not walked or attempted to. She refused physical therapy. She stopped taking her thyroid pills 8 months ago and we just found this out finding the full bottle.

She refuses to go to the doctor. I have been the one who go her into rehab for 30 days-all the phone calls etc. I got her home health after she came home and then got her on the Dad's program with the department of aging and disability.

I also took her to every Doctor's appointment, she had 4 surgeries on her eyes that I took her to, I got her a government cell phone, signed her up for food stamps, etc, etc.

The list goes on but she says I have not helped her do anything. Now that I live with her she is angry that I fixed up her kitchen, even thought she agreed to it. She is a control freak.

Now she wants me out of the house and I have done nothing wrong. You would think she would be grateful and humble that I am here to help with her needs even though she has an aid 9 hours a week. I am depressed and feel no security.

I have no where to go if she puts me out of the house. Has anyone else experienced this? I would appreciate any input. And yes, I think she has dementia.

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