My brother lives in El Paso, Texas and my sister lives near Washington DC. Both a long way off. They come to visit once a year, if I'm lucky. My brother hasn't been here for 2 1/2 years. It has been this way all of our adult lives. (They living far away and not visiting much.)
I was designated as the one to be the caregiver by osmosis and close proximity. I also assisted my mom with her parents when they became elderly until their death. I never volunteered for any of these positions, but thought I could handle it.
Now that it is here with my mom, and my mom is getting more dependent on me I don't think I can do it. I want out! My siblings never call, email, write, but say call anytime and ask, "What can I do?" Well, I need physical help and they live too far away. The 3 of us have not been together for 20+ years. My children live out of town and assist some. But again they can't just run over to assist with meals, or take her places, or be company because of distance.
My mom wants me to do these things for her and not some outside person. I work full time and don't want to give up my job. I am the youngest in the family, but my siblings work also. So they don't want to take off vacation time to see mom very often. I feel guilty, resentful, and angry. What to do ?