Robbed of Retirement Ourselves

by Anonymous
(AZ)

We moved to AZ to take care of the in-laws, we have put our lives on hold because of them for almost 10 years, so they can stay in their own home.


They are in their mid 90's, my husband has to go to their house every day for 12 hours, to cook, feed (His 94 year old dad has a feed tube) them, help them bathe, pay bills, clean house,laundry(we both do) do all maintenance, etc.

His sister is filthy rich, lives in England and does absolutely nothing, let alone even call. We have no money so I have to keep working and support the two of us on 10.00 an hour.

I am so sick of this situation and feel guilty wishing his parents would die so we can retire and enjoy it while we can- judging from my genetics (my parents are long gone) I only have 15 tops years left!!

It's just f-d up! His parents have been retired for 34 years!! His mother never even worked just spent money on herself and did what she wanted!

I will have 10 years of retirement if I'm lucky (healthy)and I already feel too old to keep working this hard and too old to travel or do anything.. :( sorry had to vent somewhere feeling angry and guilty for wishing they would die so we can have a chance at retirement.

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