Retired and Exhausted
My husband’s 92 year old mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last year although she’d probably had it for at least a year before being diagnosed. My husband is retired and I am semi retired. He has a brother and a sister who both still work full time. MIL is now in a care facility but anytime something comes up (fall, dr. appointment, ER visit) he is the one who has to drop everything because siblings are at work or in meetings and can’t be reached.
MIL is now very agitated and ornery and calls us often to vent because she can’t reach siblings. My husband and I own a lake home but can never seem to find the opportunity to get up there.
In the meantime, sister is on an extended vacation celebrating her birthday and didn’t even tell anyone she was going. I have tried to tell my husband that he and his siblings should try to come up with a schedule so that we are not on call all the time but so far no movement on his part.
It’s almost as though he’s resigned himself to being angry and resentful. Well, that is not the way I want to live! We are both in our mid sixties and I’d like to do some things together before we start having health issues.
Instead, every day I think about leaving and being on my own.