Retired and Caring for Elderly Mother

My husband and I are both retired and now my elderly mother has had to move in with us. I have four siblings that did not want to have her move with them, all younger and in a better financial situation. Is it unreasonable to use Mom's social security to help with expenses?

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by: Anonymous

You may want to speak with an attorney to understand your rights and obligations, however to me it would not be unreasonable to use any resources, within reason to help cover expenses.

A parents savings -

A parents ongoing income if any -

Family members "chipping in" on a monthly basis -

Equity in a home (if any) -

It is important NOT to go broke or hurt a person's chance at retirement because they took over the care of a family member, parent on sibling or other.

The expenses and subsequent withdrawal of funds must be documented of course with receipts and explanations, dates, etc., to lessen the criticisms that come from siblings or other interested family members or to present when the inevitable happens of the estate.

Would be good to settle up once a month with documentation so no one is accused of anything wrong...it happens even when documentation is presented.

This can be a touchy subject so do some research or contact an attorney to know what is what around this issue

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