Resentment over Family Issues

My mom has never been a sweet person. We have had our issues which got bigger as we both got older.


We have lived together quite a while, she has always had great expectations of me as far as caregiving goes. I have always since the age of 13 been the family caregiver and not gotten credit for the things I do. Now I am 51 and she has been in poor health for years, I refused to do for her what she could do for herself.

It has been a game for her. She has tried to turn my kids against me but only succeeded with one and she appears to be coming around now. She has enabled this addict for a long time and not expect her to care for her own children. Well, my mom was very sick recently I didn't think she would make it but she has once again pulled through.

I have mixed emotions as she does nothing to keep herself alive. She is so needy right now I could scream. My sister who is wealthy resents helping. I am just overwhelmed, I was ready for mom to pass.

I know it is unrealistic to expect her to change this late in the game. I guess I wanted the easy way her to just go in her sleep. I am exhausted from saying goodbye. thanks

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