RESENTMENT( end of tether)
Hi all,my dad died in 1999 when mum was only 56,since then I took over dads role. Mum has always seeked attention saying she was ill since early forties and dad was her carer.
When he died my younger sister gave birth to her second child 2 months later therefore, releasing her responsibilities, though I had 2 kids aged 12 and 9.
This has caused a rift between me and my sister as she has not shared responsibility for our mother, only keeping brief contact in the last 13 years. Whereas mum demands I am there every day.
Mum uses emotional black mail, says she is feeling ill,this ensures I don't have my own life, no days out/ holidays with husband.
Had to give up work 2 years ago due to stress as I became a grandmother,daughter single parent,and I could no longer cope with baby sitting duties, mother, and working full time.
This has had an effect on my life, low confidence, isolation,I no longer have friends and my week consists of 7 days mother, visits every day and full day out Saturday, taxis to church on Sunday 4 times in that day.
My husband is due to leave me, as he wants a companion wife, this has also put financial pressure on him being the sole breadwinner.
Sister only visits every 10 days, and mother boasts how well her career is, her wealth, bought new cars,house, etc. and I feel like screaming.
To make things worse, mums older sister lost her husband,and her 2 daughters have been like my sister,mum says that's okay they have a life of there own.
What about me?
Please give an opinion: