Resentment Doesn't Begin to Describe How I Feel...

by Ferd
(New York, NY)

I have a friend who became the de-facto caregiver and a cousin where this happened as well.


As I began to see the changes in my mom, I figured "I won't let that happen to me!", so I attempted to discuss the issue with my siblings.

Turns out they both denied mom needed any help, accused me of "wanting the house", and I got no support from my mom, who also feels she doesn't need help (despite the fact that I've got a laundry list of things I've done for her over the past 18 months.)

She needs a lot more help, and my sibs have turned a deaf ear to me, so I have turned a deaf ear to the whole lot of them. Let them deal with her (and her eventual passing). It was tough enough growing up as the first born with strict parents who got softer as they had additional children.

I'm exhausted and I'm done. I've got so many other obligations to take care of, and if I'm to get no help, they won't either.

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