So glad to see these posts and know I'm not alone. I'm an only child ( sister died a long time ago). I agree with what everyone is sharing. I have done every for mom.
She's 86 and I'm 54 and have spent most holidays away from my own kids and husband as she lives in a different state ( thank God). She is losing her vision. Is hard of hearing, incontinent, can't do stairs, insomniac. The usual.
She's in a nice "independent " living facility which offers more care as she inevitably declines. She hates it. Refuses to make friends. Makes scenes in the dining room and loves to complain about everything.
Only talks about how the other residents "families are so great and take them
out to dinner, on vacation", etc.
Actually, I know she's exaggerating and now it makes me annoyed rather than guilty. I speak with her daily for an hour or more and visit all the time. My guilt is how I've neglected my own family.
If I told he I was leaving my family to
care for her, she'd be thrilled. I agree. All
The medical establishment does is postpone the decline. This poor woman has half a life and they push pneumonia shots to extend the misery for all.
Her generation didn't care for elderly parents. They died quickly and with some dignity left. This needs to be a national
Conversation. When friends tell me of their parent's death I think of their good fortune. Awful but true!