(San Antonio, TX)
My wife takes care of her 85 year old mother on a daily basis who is legally blind. We live close by, and her brother lives about 50 miles away.
My sister in law made the comment that we should have expected this situation since we moved close by her. Never an offer to assist in the day to day help. The brother and his family make family trip plans all the time, and we stay home to take care of mom.
Our children are all grown, and we would love to be able to jump in the car and go, but we can not. We are getting more and more resentful about the situation, and it is getting worse.
We have tried sitting down and discussing the situation, but they refuse to address it and still do not offer to give us any relief.