I can't help but agree with many of the comments of those venting on this site.
My parents didn't plan for retirement either and now they have become a terrible burden on my sister and her family.
I moved 1200 miles to be with my elderly parents to help my sister in their care because my parents of from that golden 50's generation where they had all that they wanted, whenever they wanted, and never worried a dang bit about what or how their decisions would affect the rest of the world.
You know, the gas guzzling gluttons.
My mom was a stay at home mom, and even when she NEEDED to go to work, she didn't! She stayed home because she had to have a clean house and make sure we had clean clothes! Now that they are old, they have little to live on.
My dad has COPD and his care is costing a fortune. The electric bill just to run all his equipment, oxygen machine, ventilator, and power up his scooter, is costing almost $500.00 a month. Social Security doesn't pay for that!
My father's dementia from the lack of oxygen has made him more angry than he's ever been and he's never, never, never ever, did I say EVER happy about anything!!!! No matter what anyone does for him, he's miserable and takes it out on others including my poor mother who waits on him hand and foot!!
I secretly wished he'd go to a nursing home, but no one else in the family agrees with this. He'd lose his Social Security benefits and my mom would then be forced to live on her meager $400.00 a month. That means we'd be forced to pick up her living expenses!
So either way, they're a burden to us kids who are struggling in this bad economy just trying to keep our heads above water!!! I feel so guilty having these bad feelings towards them.
I suppose it wouldn't be so bad if my parents at least acted grateful a tiny bit, but they aren't grateful. They are resentful and demanding!!! HELP!!!