Boy was the wool pulled over my eyes by my three siblings, I have never been close to my father until three years ago when my sister calls and says she's coming down to see my dad who is on his death bed. I am in home health care and I had worked in the medical field for years so naturally I " fell for it".
She had to literally talk me into getting involved and insisted I go to see dad with her, I actually said no and she insisted I come along and now I know why. To dump him at my feet and say only " I told you so"!
My dad and his 91 year old wife moved into my boyfriends home six months ago, we felt sorry for them because they were living in a one bedroom dump offered by a religious faith. I won't mention the place because it is such a disgusting place to live.
So they moved in because I thought he wasn't long for the world. Turns out to be just the opposite, my dad isn't the picture of health but he is NOT on his deathbed, he and his wife just wanted to save money and have a chef, maid, and a ride, all free of charge.
I am the only child, the eldest that has severe medical issues and I feel drained, used, cheated and my own health has deteriorated over the past six months. I have had no time for myself, I just read an article about caregivers usually dying before their elderly parents in a caregiving situation and I was shocked as I felt the same way before I read the article.
The bottom line here is I finally found them a lovely affordable apartment with plenty of people who are there to help them with just about everything I have given them. I discussed this many times in the past six months and my dad wouldn't budge.
Now that he has had 6 months to save money he can go and live a better life and I won't lose mine. What a relief to have my life back.
Now I can start my life over again with my new husband. And if my dad needs me I am only three minutes away but worlds apart..