Put Them in a Home
I'm 57. Married with 17,15,14 yr olds. My parents live nearby. I'm the oldest. Ive always been the black sheep and cut out of family dealings. My father is a miser my brother a year younger than me is a miser.
He lives in San Fran and not married and very well off.
I can't bear to be around my parents because it just brings up resentments that disturb me and I'm in recovery now.
I'm not going to take on my parents as a care giver. They have plenty of money for themselves and my wealthy brother can decide what to do about them since he has been the chosen one our whole lives anyways.
My children do not like being around their grand parents. I cannot control others so I'm resigned to maintain my health and serenity for my job and my wife and children.
My wife of 19 years is an immigrant and stays at home. In her culture they take care of their elder parents however my wife has never really liked or been close to either of my parents. I travel with my job as an airline captain
I have no regrets. It's life on life's terms as farm as I'm concerned.