Put Them in a Home

I'm 57. Married with 17,15,14 yr olds. My parents live nearby. I'm the oldest. Ive always been the black sheep and cut out of family dealings. My father is a miser my brother a year younger than me is a miser.

He lives in San Fran and not married and very well off.

I can't bear to be around my parents because it just brings up resentments that disturb me and I'm in recovery now.

I'm not going to take on my parents as a care giver. They have plenty of money for themselves and my wealthy brother can decide what to do about them since he has been the chosen one our whole lives anyways.

My children do not like being around their grand parents. I cannot control others so I'm resigned to maintain my health and serenity for my job and my wife and children.

My wife of 19 years is an immigrant and stays at home. In her culture they take care of their elder parents however my wife has never really liked or been close to either of my parents. I travel with my job as an airline captain

I have no regrets. It's life on life's terms as farm as I'm concerned.

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A society that does not care about the sick is on a ruinous path
by: Anonymous

The ignorant statements by the commentator are appalling and show he or she knows nothing about dementia. With devoted care and maintaining them in a sociable setting, people who suffer from dementia or Alzheimer's can have some level of quality of life. They are not brain dead.

They have feelings and understand more than we think. They deteriorate when they are abandoned by family and friends who do not care. It's a very shocking to hear that there are no better alternative than suicide for people who are misfortunate to get dementia.

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Going home to die is not always feasible
by: Anonymous

On this website I read of so many people who obviously don't have the money to put their loved one(s) with Dementia into a proper facility. They therefore are trying to shoulder such an AWFUL responsibility by living with their parent, and attempting to "care" for them.

I find such a notion to be appalling, because it won't work. I hope that my mom will never deteriorate to such a sad state of life, although her evil mother certainly has for 7 years now.

Yet, at least she is being cared for in a dementia facility (at royal & ridiculous expense, albeit).

There would be no way for her to be cared for otherwise, as Dementia literally means Insane, and anyone who believes he can attend to, and reason, by himself with people who have degenerated to this stage, is fooling himself.

I'm not just talking about mere forgetfulness. I mean when they have no mind left and are wearing diapers, the quality of life is zero, and there is no dignity left.

Sorry, but these old people who get this bad off need to die, period--and not be kept alive as a burden to their families, and bilked by greedy Insurance companies, and wishful doctors who think they can play God.

Who the hell would want to exist like this?

We as a society need to start acting on changing the ludicrous mindset that believes everyone can, and deserves to, live 100, no matter what, even if they are enslaved to costly medicines and invasive procedures, and wind up becoming the living dead instead.

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