I am 61 years old and I lost my father 7 and 1/2 years ago. I have been caring for my mother since his death. I helped my parents while my dad was still alive with all of the day to day stuff that came up in their lives before his passing.
My mom and dad argued often during my childhood, and I think that my mom gets her greatest joy from arguing. She always let me know that I was stupid if I did not perform as well as I should have in whatever task, she thought that this would push me to prove her wrong, but unfortunately I convinced myself that I was stupid.
She never sees the bright side of anything, and just brings pessimism to every event. Up until she totaled her car last week, and of course the accident was not her fault in her mind, even though it was, she was driving herself to run a couple of errands every week.
I will be taking her drivers license away from her, and just dread the venom that is going to spew forth from her mouth. There is barely any appreciation for anything that she has, she has a nice home, all of the necessities, but does not appreciate any of it. My stress level grows by the day!