Part Time Caretaker Becoming Full Time Caretaker Next Week
We moved my mom into a nearby senior apartment back in 2012 due to a small stroke. At that time she was still driving and fairly independent. Fast forward to now, she hasn't been driving the last 3 years and is now having mobility issues. I have been taking her to appointments, shopping and helping her with cleaning etc.
Recently she has been having difficulty keeping up with her apt. and some difficulty just doing basic things.
Since her lease will expire at the end of this month my husband and I decided now would be a good time to take her in to live with us. I have to admit, this is something I have feared would happen one day, and here it is.
I know it sounds extremely selfish, but I don't want her to live here , but I know it's the right thing to do and she really does need help. She only gets a little from social security so it doesn't seem that there are other options at this time. Her mind is still sharp and she would refuse to be placed in a home. She has always told me that she would rather I shoot her than ever put her in a home.
Anyway, although I love her she is very difficult to deal with, but I just bite my tongue and press on knowing that it is temporary, and I can drop her off at her place and then return to my peaceful home.
She is under the impression that because she is "The mother" she can do as she wishes and has already told me what she will do in my home. That's not going to happen. While I realize it is going to be hard for her to lose her independence, I am going to have to put my foot down with certain things.
She does not respect the fact that I am a 57 year old adult and that I have my own way of running my household.
I am dreading this experience and am praying that God will help me to handle things the right way.
I feel selfish and evil having this attitude, and maybe I am, but I can't seem to help how I feel about this.
In the meantime my siblings can't or won't help out. They assume I will take care of everything, probably because I always have. We all live in different states and have different circumstances in our lives. I'm already getting resentful. I don't think I've ever felt this say before. *sigh