Overwhelmed

by Lorie
(Long Beach CA)

My mom's spouse passed away in May. I live in California and she is in Vegas. Caregiving crept up on me almost 3 years ago little by little I am in Vegas more frequently.


My mom had a small stroke last week and I have been in Vegas since last Wednesday. I am going home tonight. But will need to return next week.

My mom and her husband are alcoholics and gamblers. They have exhausted all but a small amount of money and have reversed mortgage out their house.

I have reduced my work hours and put my student loans in deferment. My mom has no social circle except the people at the bar. They are no where around now. She has too much money in savings to qualify for any assistance. Under 20,000.

I cannot move her in with me as my house is too small. My sister has space but my mom refuses to go. My brother is noncommittal. I am exhausted. I just want to go home.

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