Overly Needy Parent

by Cathy
(Colorado Springs, Colorado)

We moved my mother in with us 7 months ago. She is able to move around fairly well but makes no effort to reach out to make friends. We offer to take her to church, find her a church of her own liking, provided information on senior services in the area, Red Hat club information, etc.


There is always an excuse as to why she has not contacted anyone ranging from her clothing to the holiday in the month. She will talk on the phone for hours to her siblings but cannot understand that my husband and I have commitments during the day. My husband is still employed and has a commute each day. I provide full time care and home schooling for my 4 year old grandson as well.

My husband and I are active and like to go to the gym, go for walks and a variety of things for which she always has an excuse not to go and join. I am concerned regarding her lack of physical movement, her 4-6 hour naps each day and more. When we try to discuss anything with her she becomes very pouty, hides in her living area for days, makes rude and sarcastic comments, speaks to herself just loud enough for others to hear, etc.

She continually asks if she can eat this, do that, bring her trash out, etc. How or what else can we possibly do to make her feel at ease about living here, provide a little involvement for herself so she can have a part of her life separate from us and find enjoyment in participating in family activities and get togethers?

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