Overcaring? When do you know?

by Mary
(Australia)

I am caring for my 87 year old mother I and am the last of a big family. Several of my siblings think I over care for mum.


I have worked in aged care and have managed to keep mum deep water running, driving and socializing for the past 3 years. The last three times mum has visited siblings she has injured herself or become sick and I have nursed her back to health.

She is currently carrying a ham string injury and my brother is caring for her and reports that she is doing lots for herself. I believe this will extend the duration of the injury per advice received.

The only time I argue with my siblings is when they visit. Apart from that they are happy to leave me care for her but nearly every visit from a sibling results in a heated conversation about her care. It has made me doubt my ability to care for her.

Any advice?

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