Our Marriage is Failing because I Care for my Mom
(Sahuarita, Az, USA)
My mom who's health is not good due to all her issues now requires 24/7 care. Prior to mom becoming ill I was happily married, in 2010 I told my husband I would care for his ma no questions asked. So we (our 3 kids him and I) moved to his moms where I cared for her for almost 3 years. When his mom passed I took on the roll as a caregiver for my husbands uncle, that was in 2013-2014.
Now the tables have turned and since my dad passed my mom requires 24/7 care. So thinking my husband would be there with me to care for my mom and live with me to help with my mom like I did with his family he seems to be against it and its tearing me apart knowing I have jumped to the aide of his family when they needed the care and him not jumping in and taking the same initiatives.
I did really makes me feel our marriage is nothing to him and that he would never be supportive when it comes to his family or mine.
How do I choose my husband or my mom when he wont move here with me we have nothing holding him in his current living place except his job but he could be anything no matter the money pay I would still love him but when he stays apart from me.
I think my marriage is not worth it when he chooses not to support my choice to move in with my mom to care for her, even when its my promise to my dad on his death bed.
I promised my dad mom would be taken care of and now its like a choice between mom or my husband......