Only Sibling who is at His End

by Craig
(Nestleton, Ontario canada)

My mother has been with me for almost 5 yrs. she thinks that I'm her husband, maid, cook, etc. She thinks my friends are hers and that if there is a function she should be going as well.


I'm not used to shopping but spending 1.5 hours in shoppers and 2hours in Wal Mart is very painful, and sorry I have to go.....my sauce is bubbling I'm told great break....

I forgot to add she has taken over the house and I spend all my time in the garage....what a life, nobody prepared me for this and I feel so guilty. Just call me frustrated

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Boundaries, Boundaries!! Dagnabit!
by: Anonymous

Why does everyone ignore the fact that we have to have boundaries with the elders? Be tough and do it.
Or they eat you alive.

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Ditto
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel exactly at times the life is sucked out of you. Hang in there, never lose hope, make the changes you can. We have the right to a life

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We Feel Your Pain
by: Anonymous

Hi Craig,

Sometimes I scan the entries and see that someone has written in and no one has commented on their entry. You may think, when you look back at your entry, that no one cares.

When I read an entry like yours, someone who is suffering in the trenches, I just shake my head slowly and think, here's another one. There are so many of us out there.

You came here to vent, and that's a good thing. When you read the other entries it may help you through your own situation.

The only advice I can offer is to focus on your needs as much as you do your moms. Make them an equal priority. Your life shouldn't be gone because she has moved in.

You're not alone. There is a huge group of us out here going through this. If anything, maybe you can draw some strength in that thought.

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