Only Child with no Help

Time for me and my husband to fulfill our retirement dreams and sell our house and buy a huge RV. But no, I have my mom now, who is 89 and is slowly slipping into dementia. No siblings, no help, and stubborn mom who doesn't know she's a mess and needs, YET REFUSES everything. I am hateful and resentful of her. I want to flee, and never return. I'm 69, and we don't do this now, I will never do it.


I dream of running away everyday. I'm going to be one of those people that disappear foreever. No, they weren't murdered, they just couldn't hack the responsibility and stress anymore!

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Understand...
by: Anonymous

I completely understand where you are coming from. I am an only child and my mom now lives with me - and she wants every moment of my attention.

She comes out of her room to sit by the window and wait for the moment I get home. I work long hours at a stressful job and all I want is some downtime - also, being an only child, I crave solitude sometimes.

I am married and after our kids grew up and out, we were really enjoying our freedom. Now it seems like all I have is someone who wants every moment of my time and never an empty house to just breath - add the guilt on top of that and life went from great to a mess...

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Hang in there
by: Kim

I know how hard this is. I have siblings but refuse to help. My mom is 89 also and although she does not have dementia it is still challenging. My whole life has changed.

I am 49 and she is so dependent on me that it's hard for me to have a life. I will pray for you. Hope things get better for you. Maybe you may have to think of a nursing home if it gets to bad and you find it hard to take care of her...

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