Only Child and Two Very Bitter Elderly Parents

by Kristi
(The Show-Me State)

After dozens of late night and early morning calls over falls, can't get appliances to work, one wrecked car, several angry, cursing ER visits, I got the courage (and opportunity) to move my 93 year old dad and 86 year old mother from their home of 45 years to an assisted living facility.


It's been a journey of pure exhaustion and hell. With a family of my own of two young children and being an only child myself, it has been a burden that is overwhelming. I realized I needed help with my parents despite what they thought.

Now that they are in a place (which is VERY nice) that can provide around the clock care and make their lives easier and more fulfilled they continue being bitter, and angry. A simple "good morning" gets a nasty response of "what's good about it?"

I'm to the point where I can't talk to either of them for more than 5 minutes because they both are so sour. I've learned that nothing will please them. All I can do it make sure they are safe and ask God to be with them.

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ATTA Girl!
by: Anonymous

The fact that you actually accomplished this (getting 2 bitter difficult people moved into a home) is huge. You have done what millions of us fantasize about but CANNOT get done.

If they are nasty, stay away....over time they will get the message.

Your life has value too. They still have each other to rail, wail and confer with. Dont make yourself their pet whipping post.

I am in the same boat, but cannot get the ogre to leave his rock. Hang in there...please take care of YOU,,,,it is your turn.

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