One Foot Out The Door
(El Cajon California)
I am just a daughter in law. Was told by my husbands brothers that they want nothing to do with helping us take care of THEIR parents. I am now being asked to leave my job to move in with them. Neither my husband or I want to do this.
We've been helping 7 days a week for three years now. Granted the folks helped us financially, but I have been there helping with many things for 30 years. I am so stressed about taking care of people who are not mine. We were told that there may be an audit of the folks money, what this means, I have no idea. What if one of them falls? Will I be held responsible? Is any of this worth my frustration or feeling so lost?
The folks dropped a bombshell and gave their house to my husband. This ensures us taking care of them doesn't it? We did not ask for this.
The brothers are very upset about this. I've got one foot out of the door as we speak. I do not want to give up on 30 years with my husband but by the time I would be done taking care of folks, I will be too old to even enjoy life.
We also have a family and grandchildren. I can't even go see them because neither brother will take over for us even for a small amount of time. I did not sign on to give my life up. I think I've done enough. Marriage, or take care of these folks to the grave? What am I going to do???????????