by BD Mann
(New York, NY)

I am curious about recommendations to solve:

1) micromanaging from afar from sibling who believes she's in charge and I'm the in-town family caregiver

2) what is a reasonable financial contribution from out-of-town family for primary caregiver

3) what is a reasonable amount of time I should expect from out of town sister who is independently wealthy so doesn't work

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Micromanaging siblings out of town and near
by: Louise

I had the exact problem, emphasis on Had. I learned to let it go and reading other blogs and sites, therapy and yoga meditation. I was making myself ill and was not happy, I had to find other insights.

Now I am very happy. Some siblings cannot deal with certain challenges, they are excellent in all other areas of their lives. Hope this helps.


by: Anonymous

1) happens all the time unfortunately, if possible have them take over for a few weeks....that could cure this issue.

2)Logically, the closest caregiver does not receive compensation, generally speaking...the out of town relatives could contribute a portion of the cost of caregiving so as not to have the local caregiver "out of pocket", food, medications, etc. no rule of thumb here as every family situation is different.

3) That too is where there is "no rule of thumb" each family is different and contributions in time or financial is something to be discussed and agreed upon then modified if need be as time goes on as caregiving changes as the elderly parent ages.

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