I am the oldest of three daughters. Our Mom passed away 8 years ago from Alzheimer's, and it was my Dad and I who always visited her in the nursing home, etc.
My sisters barely ever saw her. When our mother died, it was my Dad and myself standing in their house, picking out her clothes to be buried in and the artifacts I wanted her to be buried with.
Again, no support from the others. My sisters have visited Mom's grave exactly once since she has passed. They both live farther away geographically than I do from Dad (and then Mom) but it was only a very short car ride to the cemetery and to the nursing home.
Fast forward and we are now approaching 3 years with Dad being in Assisted Living. He is starting to fail - he is 89 years old and is not walking well and has taken a few falls.
I am always the one who gets his phone calls (sometimes 3 times or more a day) mainly because he is bored sitting in his room. He refuses to participate in any of their activities, so in fact, I am his "life". I work full time and have a family of my own.
I get to make all of the decisions about his care, although one of my sisters is a NURSE. The family dynamics here are, to say the least, very twisted. They are very content to allow me to make all decisions concerning Dad.
I talk with my husband and my best friend to keep my sanity, but have built up terrible resentment towards the others for their lack of caring about our parents.
Anyone out there been in a similar situation?