Off the Hook Sister

by Cathy
(Colorado)

My mom - 72 - decided to sell her home and move to Phoenix to live near my sister in a warmer climate. She barely made it two months and is now living with us. The apartment though near my sister was roach infested, there was no hot water, mom had safety concerns regarding the complex, etc.

My sister would come by every few days, not help mom get her laundry to the laundry facilities in the complex, wanted her to get a city map and use the bus system on her own (in a large city).

After all the complaining we moved mom in with us in another state. Now my sister does not want to be executor of her estate and really wants nothing to do with any of us. Mom calls her once a week but my sister rarely calls her. My sister will provide short answers to e-mails from me but will certainly not initiate one. I am not so much resentful but cannot understand her change of attitude.

We are having difficulties as mom is much more needy than I ever anticipated as far as "social" needs. We cannot seem to make her feel comfortable in our home. How do I get my sister to make contact with mom?

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