My dad, aged 79 moved in with me and my husband a few months ago. He has later stage Alzheimer's and is a terror. He wasn't the greatest dad, even worse grandfather and yells and cusses at me quite often. My husband is disabled and takes up a lot of my time also. I am so worn down from lack of sleep, my dad has hallucinations at night a few times a week.
If he doesn't wake me up, my husband does from pain. I would love to move my dad back into a facility but he can no longer afford them and does not qualify for any assistance.
I have made up mind, when my dad dies, I am leaving. I have taken care of my husband for the past 14 years and now my dad for the past 6. I feel like I am no longer a person but a caregiver and will not do it one day after my father's death.
I go to a support group once a week and that is my saving grace, I pray for all of us who are taking care of someone who does not appreciate it and/or treats us terribly.