Not My Problem

by Sherrie
(Arizona)

I have siblings who refuse to have anything to do with our father. Only one keeps in contact with me and she never ask how dad is doing or gives me support in this area.


Dad is 88 and lives by himself. He lived with me for a year and I found myself becoming a 12 year old little girl in his eyes.

Two years ago I moved him out with great anger on his part and great relief on my part. This forced him to regain his independence and to make friends on his own (which he did). I have an agency come in to do his shopping and cleaning.

This past year he went on Hospice which brings in more caregivers. There have been times when Dad doesn't like the caregivers and plays the guilt card. I tell him it's his problem, not mine and the caregivers stay.

I visit dad frequently, do errands for him, do his laundry, and take him on outings and vacations. What I don't do is let him control my life. I set boundaries.

As for my siblings? When we stand before the Lord and have to account for our actions, I'll tell them it's their problem, not mine.

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