No Support or Compassion from Siblings

by So Angry 64
(Rochester, N.Y.)

Working 60 plus hours a week and caring for sick mom, sister does not even call the mom, but once in a great while.

While she is selfish married to money, 53 going all over the world, yet does not bother with mom.... hard feelings from the past due to mom getting sick and her having children late in life, made her feel mom did not care about her.

Since she lives out of state, so this is the payback. My brother has three children a wife and a job, but does not come to visit mom... He on the other hand lives 10 minutes away.

The care I give is cleaning, shopping, all doctor's appointments, tests (etc.) cooking, changing sheets, getting the mail, errands, making sure she has appropriate Co2 tanks.

On the phone for hours with her health care providers, watching the parent have severe COPD all alone, going there daily, worried to death about her, and not even a phone call from siblings, and the mom tends to stick up for the other two children, leaving me angrier than angry.

I have told them both off, and want nothing to do with either of them. Mom on the other hand does not say a word, to weak to even go there, but she will occasionally say I help you out financially the most, which I do not believe, or really care.

The problem I am having is really watching my loved one decline so fast at this time, as that disease is horrifying to watch.

At the same time my real job is also care taking, for adults with disabilities... Overwhelmed, frustrated, and really having issues within.

Mom does get mean and at times makes me feel guilty. Never does she talk to the other two children like that, it's like they are so loving and conversation is great, when they do converse which is very rare, at my end it's a nightmare, leaving me FULL of guilt. OVERWHELMED...

Got my own place go there daily, she does not like that I am not right there, but I am only 5 minutes away if that.

Mom will say you are coming over? Are you leaving, get calls at work, have to leave work, go there. I'm feeling a bit run down, do not know if I am coming or going any more...

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by: Anonymous

Mom lives with me, total bitch, 3 brothers that don't bother at all...even when I ask. Mom is all smiles on the rare occasions they show up but me, I get the long face and the complaints and the attitude.

I can't do anything right. I barely ever get a thank you. The one thing I have going for me is mother is healthy and can care for herself. And at 91 is still driving. At least she's not a burden but she's still not easy to live with.

I can't give you any words of advice but at least I can understand and let you know you're not alone. I wish you the best.

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