No Longer Resentful

by Penny
(Milpitas, CA)

At first I was very angry with my 5 sisters and 1 brother how they refused to help in anyway with taking care of my father. I couldn't understand why we shared the same kind caring, giving father as we did yet no one wants to give in return.


I went from telling them what to do from begging them to call him to pleading that they should come visit yet nothing has change. I realize that no matter how I may feel towards them that my father would still need care. I no longer cry or try to force them to do anything. I have now given it over to God.

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Keep up the Good Attitude
by: Adam

You have exactly the right attitude. Instead of continually wishing for change you have recognized the reality of the situation. Some people will never do their fair share.

I struggle financially while caring for my mother (19 years and counting now), the electricity doesn't work in some rooms, we haven't had hot water in the house for over a year and there is inadequate cool and heat in most of the house.

My sister (9 years older) doesn't help and even sends me photos of her new corvette or her and her husband's matching paint jobs on their Harley-Davidson motorcycles.

Some people are selfish or clueless or a little of both. But our being upset won't change them.

Unforgiveness and long-term anger are poisonous mindsets. Fight the temptation of resentment. Keep up the good attitude. I hope things change for you, for the better.

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