No Intimacy any More, no Life
My mother is 88 years old, I am 54 and my daughter is 27! We live together, my daughter and I have our own bedroom, but mother sleeps in the living room. I dear not have any friends come around cause I am ashamed.
When my elder sister comes and visit my 88 year old mother acts younger, but then me and my daughter get the moaning and groaning!!! It is not fair!
Not only that but my mother is obsessed with my daughter and treats her like a child, always wanting to meddle with our lives. Me and my daughter cannot take it any more.
I have tried to talk to my sister about what we are going through but she does not seem to understand OR wants to understand. When I say something about mother she says, "you have been living with her for so long you cannot let her down now". Or she says she is 88, it is her age doing all this!
I want to put my mother in a caring home where she would be better. I don't like my mother any more as some times she is so aggressive towards me in words. I think she has the start of dementia or Alzheimer's. But she does not want to go to the doctor.
I want a life....I am 54! I cannot take any more abuse....What can I do ???
This is only part of the story....there are so many other things I could write. There is soo much I need to say.....
Anyway, thank you for reading this and maybe some of you can give advice ! Thank you !!