No help for me by Family for Our Mother
My mother had a fall which caused a brain bleed and broken arm and stroke-like symptoms on her right side, which she had to relearn how to walk again. I have been the sole caregiver for years to my mom.
My 6 brothers and sisters take me for granted.
When mom fell 4 months ago she ended up in the ER and then ICU. Later was transferred to acute care facility then sub acute care, and 2 months of rehab. Now, mom lives with me. I am her main caregiver.
My brothers and sisters come to help mom (and me) when their schedule permits. Now, here is the thing that would solve everything....
If my mom/family would hire someone a few times a week to help with her care to help me and give me free time, it would be great! But, my sister is on my mom's bank account and I am not. I do not have the authority.
My mom lives with me and yet I am not on her account. I am her medical power of attorney but not her 1st agent as financial power of attorney.
So, my sister and brothers don't seem to care much for me or they would visit regularly or hire someone to help me bathe my mom, cook, bring her to doctor appointments as I oversee all of her care.
My mom only wants my sister on her checking account. I am the most successful of all my siblings career wise and financially. My mom could be understanding but she is more sympathetic with others, not with me.
My family is selfish and my mom is an enabler of their behavior, defending why they don't help her (or me). I want my mom to continue to get healthy and she is now doing so well but can't live alone. What can I do?