No, God is NOT there to Help Us...!!!!!!!

by Ron
(Ormond Beach, Florida, USA)

Cripes it pesters me to no end to hear all that namby pamby bull about God. There is no God, Okay!!! Go look up Carl Sagan's Pale Blue Dot and then get back with us on this God bull. In the meantime, I want out. I don't want to care of my 85 year old father anymore.

It is indecent, unfair, not right, totally and utterly destructive of an adult child's live. I didn't ask that he screw my mother and me be born. It has been misery ever since; I hate my life...and now that my Dad is thrown onto ME, I hate it with a passion.

So, how do I get out of this? I'm already a derelict. An only child. I can't even care for myself. So how am I supposed to care for him, his wife who was mean and abusive to me, and do his finances, and feed his darn cats, and cater to his every wish? He has money; some anyway. Surely there is something the state can do to step in and take over? I no longer care what people think of me, 'cuz this is a nightmare beyond belief. I just want to be left alone; that's what I've always wanted. JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!!

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An only child is not a good situation
by: Anonymous

i am so sorry for your situation, I wish I could help.What about Medicare? Maybe you could have someone come to his house and care for him.

Is he a veteran, because if so there are state veteran homes he could go to. And finally, medicaid. Find out if he is eligible. Being an only child really sucks. Hang in there, okay?

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If it helps at all....
by: Anonymous

You are totally right in the God matter. Please, who with an IQ over 15 really believes in that load? I'm with you on that. There are some of us out there.

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I Hear You
by: Anonymous

I think the previous responders advice is right-you should walk away. It sounds as if you need to take care of yourself and get some outside help for your father (is his wife able to care for him?) I can relate to your predicament; I also tire of people's self righteous stand on religion and finding all answers to everything in God, though if that helps them, fine.

I also find terms such as dealing with your "loved ones" irksome, and I wonder why there's not more attention paid to the plight of adult children caring for abusive parents who do not necessarily do it out of love. I have two controlling parents with Alzheimer's who refuse to leave their home and one older alcoholic sister who scares me to death. I am trying to hold on to my sanity and hope they don't all kill me.

I am seriously depressed and have my own health problems. My parents are loaded and don't offer to help me out financially at all, despite the fact that I was laid off almost 2 years ago and have given up looking for work because of having to deal with their care.

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You have no Legal Obligation, as Far as I Know
by: Anonymous

As far as I know, his wife is legally obligated to take care of him. You are not. Apparently, you don't care about your father, so just don't do anything for him.

Tell his abusive wife that you don't want to do anything, and that's it. Period. If he's got money, there are nursing homes that will be glad to take it and then file for Medicaid money to keep him in there.

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