No Boomer but Still Caregiver to Mother

by R
(Canada)

I am not a baby boomer, but I am caring for an elderly parent. My mom had us in her forties, so I am facing things that none of my friends are, which makes it hard.


I am located in a city and she is on a farm and I may have to move there with my job. I wish she had planned a little better so I wouldn't have renovated my house as much as I did last year. I want to take care of her, but she has to work with me. My brothers live further away in another province, so they call, but can't really help.

It is hard as she is physically slowing down, but is mentally fit. She is not ready for a nursing home yet, but could use some help.

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Mom should Move in with You. Don't give up your Home
by: Doug in florida

I left the city and moved in with my mom 2 years ago. My advice is, have your mom live with you in the city. Do not give up all that the city has to offer just because she lives in the country.

She needs to work with you and move in with you. Do not isolate yourself like I did. Had I known what would happen I would have had mom move in with me. Very bad situation being so far from services for mom and lonely for me.

Your mom has had her life and now she needs to help herself by helping you maintain your life as it is today. You will miss your city life.

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