Need Your Thoughts and Ideas on How to Manage Daily Interactions
Hi, please bear with me as I pour out my story. I feel I need to give you the background so you will hopefully reply and provide me some ideas to manage. I am the youngest of 4 children. My parents (Dad is 85 & Mom is 81) live with me and my family (my husband and two daughters 17 & 14 years of age). Due to jobs my other 3 siblings are scattered across the US and my parents are “lucky” to get a yearly visit if that from each of them.
We are blessed to have a separate Guest House on our property where my folks live. Dad has had Alzheimer for 7 years and my mother has been his primary caregiver up until 2 years ago. Now she is suffering from dementia herself. Fortunately, I am a Nurse and their numerous medical issues are manageable for the most part. My mother has been so “high” function up until 2 years ago and her decline has been both very sad and frustrating for me.
Even in mother’s high function days our relationship could be strained at times, as she can be both critical and demanding. She has a tendency to get under my skin. The sad part is NOW she really can’t help it and I find myself constantly on edge with her.
Please advise on creative ways to manage the stress of having to deal with someone who knows how to push all your buttons. I love my parents dearly and am committed to keeping them in their home for as long as possible.
How do you let go of the guilt you feel when you need to give yourself the “space” away from them? How do you deal with the sit down meals where you hear the same story over and over again, trying not to let it annoy you?
Thanks for reading my story….