Nasty, Mean Father Making Caregiving a Real Burden and Health Risk for Me.
(Clarence Center, NY USA)
I am the sole caregiver. My baby sister just retired and can now help out.
However, after the display of meanness from my father Christmas eve she does not want to deal with him. She and I are afraid we are going to loose our tempers with him.
He is very good at picking at her especially, she can do nothing right. Now he tells her she should not have retired.
She wants to go to London England as a retirement vacation. His reply was, "Look what happened to your sister, she went to London and then died." "Didn't you learn anything from her mistake?"
Our sister did not die because she went to London, she died because she was one in a million to get spontaneous Mad Cow disease. He just gets worse.
And, now he has taken up drinking and then he is really mean. We fear for our mother's well being living with him. I brought her to our house to stay for a few days trying to convince her to stay. I thought he would enjoy being left alone.
Only to have him show up at our house and take her back home with him. She agreed to go. And, now we are back to worrying.
Can I just take her out of that environment?
What do you do with a mean old man. So sad because his father, my grandfather was a dear!